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Contents
1. How to build confidence: an introduction to the life-changing formula that
will transform your life. 14
2. How confident are you? Defining your starting point. 18
3. Sow the seeds of confidence and watch them grow: why you are the way you are
and how you can become what you want to be. 22
4. Whose responsibility is your confidence? Why, yours, of course! 26
5. Getting motivated: setting goals which give you the impetus to change and to grow. 30
6. Determination: identifying the reasons to change, and reinforcing your
commitment to be confident. 34
7. Thinking like a confident person: you start transforming your life
by changing the way you think. 38
8. The Four Step Method: a cast iron way to become a positive thinker. 42
9. Silencing the Inner Critic: challenging the little voice in your head that loves to criticise you. 46
I 0. Affirmations: how to use them to build confidence and the difference they make. 50
11. Who you imagine yourself to be: self-image and the subconscious. 54
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12. Getting the most from creative imagery: life-transforming techniques which
change your self-image permanently. 58
13. The ‘As If’ Principle: acting as if you’re confident to become more confident. 62
14. Eat an elephant: the importance of taking it one step at a time. 66
15. Self-awareness – the past: examining how the past has affected you and what’s been
holding you back. 70
16. Self-awareness – what are you like? Understanding yourself – the more self-aware
you are, the more control you have over your life. 74
17. Parenting and upbringing: how your conditioning and your relationship with your
parents as a child continue to affect you. 78
18. Control dramas: how you learned to get what you wanted from others, and how it
still governs your behaviour. 82
19. Taking care of your Inner Child: learning to accept the child you once were as an
important part of the adult you. 86
20. Forgive, forget and be free: how to forgive those who have hurt you, take charge
of your life and move on. 90
21. Let go of the past: how to get rid of unwanted baggage from the past so it no longer
affects you. 94
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22. Self-acceptance: accepting yourself as you are, especially those things you cannot
change. 98
23. Body image: love your body, warts and all! 102
24. Get in shape: a health and fitness guide to give you more energy and more confidence. 106
25. Calmness and confidence: deep relaxation and instant calmness for instant
confidence. 110
26. Anchoring confidence: how to produce confident feelings any time you wish. 114
27. So far, so good: an opportunity to pause, take stock, reflect and review your
progress to date. 118
28. Find a purpose: one that inspires and motivates you, and gives your life meaning
and direction. 122
29. Goals revisited: consider what you wish to achieve in life, and get started
right away. 126
30. The Thinker thinks and the Prover proves: how to draw on the power of the
subconscious mind to build confidence. 130
31. Confident self-talk: changing negative, restrictive thinking patterns to thoughts of
confidence and self-worth. 134
32. Beliefs: what they are, why they’re important, how to change them and create
self-belief. 138
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33. Attitude: seven attitudes of confidence for you to make your own. 142
34. Self-love: self-worth, the key to happiness and fulfilling relationships. 146
35. Concentrating on what you do well: identifying your strengths: acquiring new
personal qualities. 150
36. Overcoming weaknesses: building on your strengths. The importance of
concentrating on what you do well, and cultivating patience and persistence. 154
37. Take a risk: how to get out of your comfort zone. 158
38. Just do it: sure-fire confidence building activities. Go on – have a go! 162
39. Confident body-language: adopt a confident posture and you feel more confident.
You project confidence too. 166
40. Conditions of worth: how others assess you. and how to deal with rejection. 170
41. Give up approval-seeking behaviour: there’s only one person whose approval
you really need – guess who? 174
42. How to make a good impression: conversational skills that make others want to
talk to you, and allow you to be confident. 178
43. Be a good listener: good listening is one of the secrets of confident communication
and popularity. 182
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44. Stand up for yourself: introduction to assertiveness. 186
45. How to be assertive: effective tools and techniques for standing your ground and
getting your point across. 190
46. Saying no when you mean no: one of the hardest things to do when you lack
confidence. 194
47. Compliments and criticism: how to handle criticism and give and receive
compliments. 198
48. How to ask for what you want: and what to say when you don’t get it. 202
49. Lighten up: stop taking yourself too seriously and have a laugh. 206
50. Emotional intelligence: understanding and managing your emotions; and relating
to other people’s in an appropriate manner. 210
51. Take an active interest in others: helping others does wonders for your own
confidence. 214
52. Choose peace: becoming aware of your spiritual dimension and enjoying
continual peace of mind. 218
Bibliography 223
About the Author 224
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